20 Steps To Ultimate Confidence

What is self-confidence?

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True self confidence is an inner feeling of certainty about who you are and what you are able to offer the world. It is the feeling that you are worthwhile and valuable.

What self-confidence is not!

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• Arrogance,

• Acting as though you are better than others.

• False pride or showing off

• Feeling better about yourself by making others feel bad about themselves.

• Being arrogantly boastful, greedy or mean,

• Nor is it gained by taking advantage of others.

What will having self-confidence do for you?

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When you have true inner self confidence, its like having a magic wand. You are able to see the steps through the doors of opportunity that you were never able to open before.

People are attracted to confident people, without self confidence it is impossible to achieve really great results. with self confidence comes high self esteem, which can literally open any doors for you. Confident people have style, charisma and charm

20 Tips To Everyday Confidence

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Using your physiology

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The more you walk, stand and look confident on the outside the more you will begin to feel confident on the inside too.

Using your smile

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A simple smile is worth more than a hundred frowns.

When you smile, it is almost impossible to feel bad at the same time.

Whatever you are doing right now, smile and keep smiling for at least 15 minutes.

Practice using your SMILE everyday

Don’t judge yourself

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So often the reason we are afraid to do something, or try something new, is because we are afraid of failure. We judge ourselves very harshly when things do not quite work the way we think they should or want them to. If we judge ourselves, we also expect others to judge us, because we are doing the same to ourselves. Instead of judging yourself for not doing something as well as you wanted to, or would like to, celebrate yourself for simply doing it.

Release your guilt

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If we allow ourselves to feel guilty about something, we are our confidence in ourselves and in our actions (or what we decide not to do)

I don’t believe that we should allow ourselves to feel guilty about anything in our lives.

If you don’t want to do something - learn to simply say

“NO”

If you know that if you do something you will feel guilty afterwards - simply “don’t do it in the first place”

Acknowledge and celebrate yourself

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Start noticing everyday what you have done throughout the day, no matter how small it is, remember all the things you do on auto-pilot too.

At the end of everyday saying “well done” to yourself for everything you have done, during the day fills your head with positive thoughts and creates more confident in you as you realize everything that you are achieving.

Create a positive image

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Always do your hair, wear clothes that make you feel good and accessorize yourself well. Make sure your clothes and shoes are always clean and well presented. Looking good on the out side improves you feelings of feeling good on the inside too.

Using Positive Affirmations

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Affirmations work directly on your subconscious mind and help change old, negative beliefs. It is important to remember that a belief, is simply a thought you have repeated to yourself over and over again, throughout your life. Eventually these “beliefs” becomes your inner “truths”.

Using positive affirmations everyday will re-frame your inner thoughts and you will begin to remove all those old negative thought patterns you have built up over the years.

What is the worst case scenario?

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Often you lack confidence to do something because you worry about the terrible consequences that may result, if it goes wrong, or doesn’t work, what it will feel like as you do it. Most times, what we worry about before it happens, doesn’t actually become reality anyway.

Ask yourself what is the worst that can happen if I........?

If you can deal with that, then just do it and don’t worry about it beforehand.

If you can’t deal with it then simply don’t do whatever it is.

Is this really important

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Whatever you are worrying about that may happen if you do something, take time to imagine that it is 10 or 20 years ahead and you are looking back, My bet is you are laughing at all the fuss you made about doing something or that it really was no big deal at all in hindsight?

Change your questions

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Often it is the questions you ask yourself that deplete your confidence in yourself. Do you focus on asking:

• what could go wrong

• what might happen

Change your questions and ask

• What could go well

• What benefits will there be if I do this

• How will this make me feel when I achieve it

Focus on asking yourself positive questions instead of negative questions.

Don’t let other peoples words in

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How often do you allow other peoples words to make you feel down or lacking? remember that you invite other peoples to Its not the words other people say to you, it’s the way you react to them and talk to yourself about them afterwards that is the problem - change the way you think!

Use the STOP technique

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Whenever you feel a negative thought coming on - say out loud to yourself STOP IT. and change your thoughts to some thing positive straight after. Saying STOP IT breaks your pattern of thought and creates a void for you to fill with a positive thought.

Be grateful for what you already have

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Being appreciative about what you already have instead of looking at everything you don’t have in your life. Every morning start by thinking of who is in your life that you love, who loves you, all the things you have in your life already - this is a great way to start the day with positive thoughts in your head and get your ready for great things to happen through out the day too.

Show off your achievements

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Learn to tell people about the things you do well. Tell people how good you are at............................. If you do this with pride and a sense of achievement and will feel great.

Change your words

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Take the time to listen to the words you use on a daily basis - do you use the words:

• I can’t

• I don’t want

• It won’t work

• But

Regularly? if so replace these with positive words like these instead.

• I can

• I would like

• It will work

• And

Visualise a great day ahead

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In the morning as you are having your shower, close your eyes and visualise the day ahead and everything going perfectly, visualise all the people you will meet, the things you will say. Visualise everything being a great success and it will be.

Emotion in motion

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It is well known that the more your body is in motion the higher your energy levels, the higher your energy the harder it is to feel bad. Walk more, dance to your favourite song on the radio, If you feel a little low during the day jump up and down a few times and you will soon feel much better

The past is gone

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Remember, no matter what happened yesterday, this morn ing or even two minutes ago, it is gone and you can’t and wont bring it back. If things didn’t go as well as you wanted them to, take a lesson from it and do things differently next time. If something happened that you wished hadn’t, it doesn’t matter anymore it is over and done with you can’t change the clock - forget it - worrying about what you did before this very moment is a waste of your energy - focus on the here and now and the great things that are yet to come.

Next steps

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You have now learnt a host of new ways to create confidence and if you use these tools and techniques, you will see a difference in your outlook and your confidence will grow.

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